“May the flowers remind us why the rain was so necessary.”
—Xan Oku
Hi, I’m Keely.
In my younger years, I found life terribly dissatisfying.
Being a human on this planet felt more like a chore than a privilege and I wasn’t particularly happy to be here. Unless I was drunk—which I was a lot. Then I liked Earth just fine. Everything was better with a buzz.
Unfortunately, I tended to be blackout drunk more often than I was pleasantly buzzed, so I had to do something about it. After coming out of a blackout in a jail cell, with no recollection of how I got there, I knew something had to change.
So I sorted out the drinking—but then had to confront the chronic depression that drove me to drink the way I did.
That adventure took me around the world and included two “peak” life-changing moments:
Talking to a psychiatrist in Washington, DC, where the doctor I paid to sign off on my antidepressant refill refused to write me a prescription: “Change your life, not your medication,” he told me.
Sitting with a shaman in Ecuador, where I threw my depression into the fire—after five years without a depressive episode—thanking it for its lessons and ready to be done with the old pattern.
Along the way, I’ve learned a lot. My problem wasn’t that I had a shortage of serotonin or needed a chemical intervention—though I fully respect and honor the people that’s true for. My issue was that I was living a life out of alignment.
Our society’s favorite “path to success” (pick a career where you’ll be well paid, then hustle your way to the top) wasn’t the right path for me. I yearned for adventure and was more drawn to the mystical than the material.
To find lasting life satisfaction, I had to:
Complete deep healing, clearing not only the “sludge” I’d accumulated in my lifetime but also the traumas I’d inherited from my ancestral lines.
Figure out what I needed to thrive—from a basic “human animal” perspective (the things we all need) and from a personal perspective (what the unique bundle of nature, nurture and life experiences called “Keely” needs).
Commit to walking my path, both when it’s fun (most days) and when it’s challenging (my choices aren’t always popular).
Sharing what I’ve learned (and continue to learn) is a big part of the puzzle for me. This is partly because it assigns meaning to what I went through and partly because I love writing. Like, love writing. So much.
Here, on my digital homebase, I blog my heart out, sharing what I’ve learned and indulging in my favorite hobby.
I like to imagine that, if my younger self found this website, she’d find a shortcut to the answers she needed and be able to save herself years of suffering.
I hope that something on here will be useful for you too. The deeper I’ve gone down a spiritual path, the more I’ve come to believe that a rich, rewarding life filled with bliss, awe and delight is accessible to all of us…once we learn how to release our suffering and find the path we’re meant to walk.
Wishing you all the bliss, awe and delight you could ever want,